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| Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #90916] |
Wed, 10 March 2004 22:29  |
 redflyer
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So, when I needed ceremony readings I posted over in "Vows" and got more fantastic suggestions than I could ever use. Because that self-serving behavior was positively reinforced, I'm going to try something similar here now that we're trying to compose our invitations.
Please post your potential or actual unique/unusual/humorous/irreverent invitation wording. I won't specify what I'm looking for exactly so that people will post lots of things that will be useful a wide range of IBs.
Thanks in advance!
R.I. Red, once upon a time.
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #90997] |
Thu, 11 March 2004 08:06  |
Li
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Li
and
Mr. Li
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding
Saturday, the thirty-first of July
two thousand and four
at five o'clock in the afternoon
The Blah Blah Blah Club
on Blah Pond
Li'stown, New Hampshire
Reception to follow
Pretty standard "non-Church ceremony" wording, except that we are listed as hosts. Due to a lot of family crap, and the fact that my Dad and Stepmother are boycotting the wedding, I wasn't comfortable using "Together with their parents". The books told me that this should've read "The pleasure of your company is requested/ at the marriage of/ Li/ and/ Mr. Li...", but I didn't care for the passive-voice, disembodied-host effect. And I prefer inviting guests to the "wedding", rather than the "marriage". As someone (I think it was merricontrary) said in a thread I started about this: not everyone that's invited to the wedding is invited to the marriage.
Our response cards will be a little different too. They will just be cards-- no envelopes, nothing to check off. Across the top they will say "RSVP by July 10", and below it will give options how: "by e-mail: (special account we'll set up for rsvp's)", "by phone: (our phone #)", and, "by mail: (my Mom's name and address)". This way, if someone wants to be formal about it, they can go the whole hog and write out a response on their own stationery. If not, they can just call or e-mail. I'm hoping this approach will lead to a better-than-average response rate. We shall see. I'll report back...
[Updated on: Thu, 11 March 2004 08:16]
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #91028] |
Thu, 11 March 2004 08:52 |
merricontrary
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(we were paying, so no parents' names):
with joyous hearts
we invite you to attend
the wedding of
ME
and
HIM
date, place, time.
***
food and merriment to follow
reception location
time
note to self: stop procrastinating. starting tomorrow.
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #91074] |
Thu, 11 March 2004 09:59 |
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belldandy
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Not exact yet, but something I've been playing with. We're having a "fancy" party, but we don't want it to be too formal, so FH suggested not using "the honor of your presence". I also agree with Li about putting our names first, since we're hosting. Well, my parents are helping out with some of the costs (about 35%-40% I'd estimate) but FFIL is not, so we decided not to stick any parents on the invite.
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You're invited!
Andrea MyMiddle
&
HisFirst
invite you to the ceremony
uniting them in marriage
Saturday, December 18, 2004
The Lagoon
Essington, Pennsylvania
Dinner and dancing reception to follow.
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #91308] |
Thu, 11 March 2004 13:18 |
Hells_Belle
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Ours are only unusual because we have 4 sets of parents, and because I refused to have my mommy invite people to my wedding. So we handled is like this:
Invitations:
TOGETHER WITH THEIR PARENTS
Jane Doe
AND
John Smith
REQUEST THE PLEASURE OF YOUR COMPANY
AT THEIR WEDDING
SATURDAY, THE TWENTY-SEVENTH OF NOVEMBER
TWO THOUSAND AND FOUR
AT HALF PAST SIX IN THE EVENING
THE NATIONAL DANCE CENTRE
14-16 GRASSMARKET
EDINBURGH, SCOTLAND
RECEPTION TO FOLLOW
Enclosure card for out of town guests:
Please Join Us
FOR THE FOLLOWING EVENTS
COCKTAIL RECEPTION
FRIDAY, THE 26TH OF NOVEMBER
7 O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING
137/3 CONSTITUTION STREET
EDINBURGH
EH6 7AD
SCOTTISH BREAKFAST
SUNDAY, THE 28TH OF NOVEMBER
12 O'CLOCK NOON
THE DORIC
15/16 MARKET STREET
EDINBURGH
EH1 1DE
ATTIRE FOR BOTH EVENTS
IS CASUAL
RSVP for out-of-town guests:
KINDLY
rsvp
BY 15 OCTOBER 2004
___________________________________
NUMBER ATTENDING ON FRIDAY: _____
NUMBER ATTENDING ON SATURDAY: _____
NUMBER ATTENDING ON SUNDAY: _____
NUMBER OF VEGITARIANS/VEGANS: _____
OR REPLY AT WWW.WHATEVER.CO.UK
Otherwise our invitations are very traditional(they look like this) hence the all caps. The bits that are not capped are a larger, scrolly font.
Yawn, I know. But a battle I very much didn't want to have with my Park Avenue mama. The gatefold velum and ribbon is a triumph, trust me!
[Updated on: Thu, 11 March 2004 13:23]
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #91907] |
Fri, 12 March 2004 09:50 |
lion
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We agonized over this too and we are almost done with them (I think we'll have them in our hot little hands next week!).
Ours read:
With great joy,
FIRST MIDDLE LAST & FIRST MIDDLE LAST
invite you to celebrate their marriage
on Month, Day, Year at Restaurant,
Boston, MA.
Please join us under the chuppah at noon with lunch to follow.
RSVP email or phone number
We're planning to include an insert with more information, but no RSVP card or other types of cards in there. I hand't really thought about the marriage/wedding thing (obviously not reading closely enough!) but I think "celebrate their marriage" works, right? How strange to invite those goofy friends of my mom into our marriage - not advisable!
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #91962] |
Fri, 12 March 2004 10:48 |
allygirl
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Mr. Her Dad and Mrs. Her Mom
and
Mr. His Dad and Mrs. His Mom
invite you to share in the joy
of the marriage uniting their children
me
and
him
at
blah blah blah
- we are paying for the bulk of the wedding, but after much discussion we decided to put their names in insted of "together with their parents" cause we knew it would warm their little hearts! which it did!
"Sorry, Hunter can't come to the phone right now. He's self-medicating with the stun baton. He'll call you when his fingernails turn black."
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #92000] |
Fri, 12 March 2004 11:21 |
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Punctuation, anyone?
We're also doing the "Together with their parents" thing, but including their names:
Together with their parents
My mom and dad
and
His mom and dad
Tami
and
Tboy
ask you to join in the celebration of their wedding
Should there be commas? -
Together with their parents,
names
and names,
I feel like punctuation is frowned upon by the invitation people, but I also want it to make sense!
thanks!
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #92591] |
Fri, 12 March 2004 23:39 |
Hells_Belle
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Tami, nope, no commas! The line breaks act as commas on an invitation. There are no fullstops, either...it's no punctuation except for time of day if you're doing it the old fashioned way.
Gracie Ann, if it's really traditional you want, then the wording is more usually:
Your Mom and Your Dad
(request the honor of your presence)
(request the pleasure of your company)
at the marriage of their daughter
You
to
Him
son of His Mom and His Dad
on Saturday the 27th of November
two thousand and four
at six o'clock
Your venue name
Your venue city and state
at
That avoids the us/them thing, which is convenient.
Traditionally, honor of your presence is used for religious ceremonies and pleasure of your company for civil ones.
And yes, people totally still do it. It's a nice way to honour/recognise your parents; we're just not doing it because our invitations would have about, umm, nine names plus ours on them. That's a guest list, not an invitation 
"As above, so below."
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #94221] |
Tue, 16 March 2004 15:30 |
Hells_Belle
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Hi, helenlove!
No, it's not rude at all; in fact, it's the most traditional way to do it. It's only recently (as these things go) that the parents of the father have begun appearing on the invitation. And I don't think it's anything to do with who is paying, actually.
"As above, so below."
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #95347] |
Wed, 17 March 2004 22:18 |
feline
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We joyfully invite you to our wedding celebration.
On this day we will marry the one
we laugh with, live for, dream with, love.
Please join
Feline
and
Canine
at Time
on Date
Two thousand and four
Place
Buffet dinner and dancing to follow.
The penguins are psychotic.
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #98396] |
Tue, 23 March 2004 14:11 |
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We had a very awkward situation where not all parents knew the financial details, so here's what we did. I know Miss Manners finds invitations w/out hosts intolerable, so I can't claim that any of this wording is correct from an etiquette standpoint. We had fairly informal invitations.
Text was align right and yes I used all the commas.
You are invited to celebrate the wedding of
myfirst mymiddle mylast,
daughter of mom mylast and dad mylast,
and hisfirst hismiddle hislast,
son of mom hislast and dad hislast,
at
date,
time,
location.
Reception to follow.
- gailpegg, not logged in
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #98767] |
Wed, 24 March 2004 02:15 |
LA Girl
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Ours was:
With joyful hearts
Bride's mom and dad
and
Groom's mom and dad
invite you to join in celebration
as their children
LA Girl and LA Boy
meet under the chuppah
english date
hebrew date
time
place
city
dinner and dancing to follow
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #98792] |
Wed, 24 March 2004 07:35 |
redflyer
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I guess I'd better contribute something since I started this thread...I hope other people are finding it useful too!
Here's what I think we've decided on:
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Invite:
Friends,
come join with our families
and celebrate with us
as we get married!
R.I. Red
and
NeedToThinkOfaFHHandle
will exchange wedding vows
on DATE
at TIME
on the shore of Lake Winnipesaukee
Town, New Hampshire
Our families invite you to begin the celebration with refreshments during the hour before the ceremony. (little letters)
I know you're not supposed to go quite so heavy on the prepositions, but I sort of can't help it -- it makes it a sentence. But we may change that. Also, I know the first section is in first person and the second section is in third person, and that kind of bugs me, so we'll make sure the design separates them out somehow. (Would you be surprised to learn that I'm a copyeditor by trade, and that there's little in this world that inspires passion in me the way grammar does?)
Reception card:
please join us
for dinner, dancing, and dalliance*
at reception site
*won out over "song, supper, and shenanigans"
RSVP card
Mr. Red really wants four choices:
NAME(S)_______________
__ accepts with pleasure
__ declines with regret
__ accepts with regret
__ declines with pleasure
Sound amusing now, but how will we actually take it if someone selects one of the latter two??
[Updated on: Mon, 12 April 2004 09:16]
R.I. Red, once upon a time.
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #99078] |
Wed, 24 March 2004 12:09 |
Mae West
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I was kinda thinking of something like,
"HOLY SHIT! THEY'RE GETTING MARRIED!"
on the cover and our names and info on the inside. I even typed it up in the font I want to use and showed it to Bogie. He said, "we'll see." Also, I'd hate for my grandmother to die of a heart attack. But maybe I could just send a different one to her and her kids. What's sad is I'm only semi-kidding about this 
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #107784] |
Thu, 08 April 2004 13:53 |
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #108614] |
Fri, 09 April 2004 18:35 |
not_amused
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Invitation:
Together with our parents
j7muse
and
Mr.Muse
Invite you to share our celebration
of lifelong love and commitment
in the ceremony uniting us in marriage
Sunday, the Fifth of September
Two Thousand and Four
at (time) in the afternoon
Mid-Mountain
Location Resort
Town, CA
The Guts:
Information card-
For more detailed information about the wedding, hotel, airport carpool, ideas about what to do and where to eat in (city), other extra-nuptual events and embarrassing childhood photos, please visit our website. (site listed)
Reception-
The celebration continues with an evening of dinner, dancing and merriment
Time
Room
Resort
City
Share the Weekend With Us! -
You will receive an updated schedule upon your arrival, but here is a tentative schedule to plan your stay in (city). For more information, check out the events section of our website.
Friday: Welcome dinner in (room) followed by a bonfire and smores.
Saturday: We're planning an excursion in the Tahoe area. Feel free to sign up at our website, or plan to spend the day on your own.
Saturday evening: Rehearsal dinner at (location). Everyone is welcome!
Sunday: The Main Event!
Please arrive at least 30 minutes early to take the chairlift to mid-mountain, and wear comfortable shoes as there is a bumpy walk to the ceremony site.
Monday: Farewell breakfast
Travel-
directions, carpool from the airport info, accommodations
RSVP
We have reserved __ seats in your name
Please reply before August 5, 2004
(GUESTS NAME HERE)
Wedding ceremony and reception
accepts
regrets
no. attending
Welcome to Tahoe Party
accepts
regrets
no. attending
Rehearsal Dinner
accepts
regrets
no. attending
Transportation
To and from airport, no. in party
To and from ceremony, no. in party
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #109047] |
Sun, 11 April 2004 17:24 |
joyeux
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We have divorced/remarried parent issues (doesn't everyone?) and wanted to be as diplomatic as possible, so we used:
A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:
Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness; but still will keep
A bower quiet for us, and a sleep
Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing.
-John Keats
*********************
Together with their families,
Joyeux
and
Mr. Joyeux
request your presence
as they extend the bonds of friendship
to include the vows of marriage
on Sunday, the thirtieth of March
Two thousand and three
at half past two in the afternoon
Lovely Location
123 Main Street
City, State
Reception to follow
[Updated on: Tue, 04 May 2004 11:49]
Shantih, Shantih, Shantih.
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #121923] |
Tue, 04 May 2004 08:02 |
starfruit
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Mine involves lots of different 'sections' to encompass the different parts of the day. There's a 'main' card and then three postcards attached together, giving details of the ceremony, party and other info. Then there's an RSVP postcard for them to send back (this is just so you can decipher the below).
Main Card:
Dear *****,
You are invited to witness and celebrate our wedding on Saturday 18 September. Details enclosed.
With love,
Starfruit and Starfruitman
RSVP
Ceremony:
2pm, Saturday 18 September
***Venue***
***Address***
We will be married in a Quaker Meeting for Worship, followed by celebratory tea and cakes at the meeting house. Children and babies are welcome in Meeting. We ask you not to use cameras during the ceremony or confetti afterwards!
Party
6.30 until 11.00pm
Saturday 18 September
***Venue***
***Address***
Put on your glad-rags and your dancing-shoes and bring wise words to add to our time capsule.
A hot fork buffet will be served at 7.00pm.
Information
Just includes parking and contact details. Booorrrinngg
RSVP Postcard:
***Name and Name***
We would be delighted to attend []
Number invited: 2
Number attending: []
Sorry, but we can't attend []
Food Preferences: Aubergine layer (vegetarian) [] Coq au Vin []
Other dietary requirements:
Please reply by August 16
I'm particularly pleased with 'glad-rags' - my mum suggested that and I think it's a very joyful way to suggest celebratory clothing may be appropriate!!
Edited to satisfy rampant perfectionism.
[Updated on: Tue, 04 May 2004 08:20]
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #122029] |
Tue, 04 May 2004 11:00 |
zebrastix
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selkie,
i'm pretty sure that the form you've used for the divorced parents is the "correct" one, i.e. folks will probably recognize that this couple is no longer married ... i'd definitely run it by your FMIL first, though, to make sure that she is comfortable with the nomenclature! if she's anything like my mom, she's probably never even thought about it, but always better to ask, right? 
stumbling on melons, as i pass,
insnared with flowers, i fall on grass
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #122481] |
Wed, 05 May 2004 08:57 |
sugarcube
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We're getting married abroad, then coming home to a party hosted by his parents, and partially funded by mine. So our invites will say:
S.boy mom and S.boy dad theirlastname
together with
Surgarmom and sugardad sugarlastname
invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
Sugarcube
and
Sugarboy
at a cocktail reception
date
time
at the home of S.boy mom and S.boy dad theirlastname
address
www.sugarcubesugarboywedding.com
and we are totally stealing the very clever Indiebride (who did this? I read it in another thread and it was BRILLIANT) RSVP:
Yes! We will be happy to see you there
_____ of ____ will attend. (Second blank to be filled in with number of INVITED people. This is invaluable in my family, where if I invite one aunt and uncle, they might bring their four (grown) children, their children's children, children's girlfriend/boyfriend, neighbors, dogs, etc. It's ridiculous. I love how this is a sly, but firm way to keep a cap on things.
Yes, we will stay for dinner, to be served at 6:30pm _____
No, we regret we cannot attend_______
Surviving is important - Thriving is elegant
-Maya Angelou
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Wed, 05 May 2004 12:37 |
cleanthename
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As explained elsewhere, I have FOUR variations on the invite/announcement.
The straight wedding invite goes:
Colonel and Mrs. My Dad
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
MyFirst MyMiddle MyMiddle2
to
Mr. HisFirst HisMiddle HisLast
on Saturday, the fourth of September
at super secret location
The wedding announcement goes:
Colonel and Mrs. My Dad
are pleased to announce
the marriage of their daughter
MyFirst MyMiddle MyMiddle2
to
Mr. HisFirst HisMiddle HisLast
on Saturday, the forth of September
at super secret location
The bbq invite goes:
this one has been nixed as I can't for the life of me come up with something I like.
And people are getting announcement, wedding invite, both invites, or bbq invite and announcement as appropriate.
[Updated on: Wed, 05 May 2004 18:59]
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #126779] |
Mon, 31 May 2004 21:07 |
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This is a second marriage for me (a first for him) and I would like to include my two children on the invitations. Any suggestions for wording the invitations? I don't think that we are going to include any of our parents names since we're paying for everything. Also, the ceremony/reception is going to be pretty casual.
Thanks!
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #126781] |
Mon, 31 May 2004 21:15 |
AMS
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We're going for a casual wedding, so I decided that the invite wording should be conversational and accessible. Thus....
FRONT COVER:
My full name &
His full name
would love you to join them
at their wedding.
August 7, 2004
Bainbridge Island, Washington
LEFT INSIDE:
After almost seven years,
we’ve decided it’s time to voice
our commitment to each other
and our community.
You’re an important part of
our circle of friends and family,
and we hope you can be here
to celebrate with us.
Come camp in the Island forest
for the entire weekend,
or simply join us Saturday evening.
RIGHT INSIDE:
Saturday, August 7, 2004
Location
Location Address
Bainbridge Island, WA
Garden reception at 5pm
Ceremony at 6pm
Dinner and all-night dancing to follow
Get lots more info and RSVP at
www.electrolicious.org/websiteaddress
Please, please RSVP by July 15
via the website listed above
or telephone: 206/555-1212
[Updated on: Thu, 03 June 2004 20:51]
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #126893] |
Tue, 01 June 2004 08:46 |
Papaya
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R.I. Red, I'm just writing to let you know I'm using
__Accepts with pleasure
__Declines with regret
__Accepts with regret
__Declines with pleasure
Our invite wording was pretty rushed, so I had no time to think of anything amusing, touching, or remotely creative. I realize I'm ripping Mr. Red off by using the above, but it's the one thing in our wording that is making me endlessly pleased. I'm not telling anyone in advance, because I suspect many won't even realize what they're looking at. We'll just see. Thank you for posting, and I hope it's okay that I'm riding on your creative wave. Did you end up using it?
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| Re: Invitation wording roundup -- please post yours! [message #133108] |
Mon, 14 June 2004 16:44 |
Ms. Peabody
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We're having a private wedding and two receptions in different states. Here's what we did:
Wedding:
SunnyDay
&
ClearSkies
request the pleasure
of your company at their
wedding
date, time,
location,
city, state
1st Reception:
SunnyDay
&
ClearSkies
will be married in a private ceremony
date
SDay's mom & dad (no mr./mrs.)
invite you to a casual outdoor
celebration of their marriage
day
time
location
2nd Reception:
SunnyDay
&
ClearSkies
will be married in a private ceremony
date
SDay's mom & dad (no mr./mrs.)
CSkie's mom
CSkie's dad & wife
invite you to a dessert reception in
celebration of their marriage
day
time
location
[Updated on: Mon, 14 June 2004 16:45]
Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go." - Oscar Wilde
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